ADHD Therapy for Kids & Teens in San Diego
If your child or teen is constantly overwhelmed, melting down, impulsive, or struggling to focus, it can feel like everyday turns into a battle at home.
You might be exhausted, worries you’re “too hard” or “too easy” on them, and secretly wondering if you’re missing something important.
I help children, teens, and parents understand ADHD, reduce conflict, and build doable routines and skills so home and school feel calmer and more manageable.
When ADHD is about more than focus
ADHD is often described as a focus problem, but for many kids the hardest part is emotional regulation and day-to-day executive functioning. From the outside it can look like your child is being defiant; up close it feels like everything sets them off and nothing you try sticks for long.
This might look like:
Big reactions to small frustrations that seem to come out of nowhere.
Impulsive comments or behaviors that happen faster than they can stop themselves.
Meltdowns around transitions like leaving the house, starting homework or turning off screens.
Low frustration tolerance when things are boring, hard, or don’t go as planned.
Constant conflict at home around homework, mornings, bedtime, or simple requests
Your child is not choosing this (and neither are you)
Children and teens with ADHD are not trying to be difficult or make things harder for you. Many are struggling with impulse control, emotional regulation, and executive functioning skills that make everyday expectations feel much harder than they look from the outside.
What can seem like defiance is often overwhelm, lagging skills, or a nervous system that gets overloaded quickly. When you understand what is actually happening in your child’s brain, it becomes easier to respond with less blame, less shame, and fewer power struggles.
Why punishment alone feels like it “doesn’t work”
If it feels like nothing works - consequences, rewards, reminders - you are not alone!
Traditional discipline often misses the real issue because the behavior isn’t just intentional misbehavior.
Repeated lectures and consequences can actually increase dysregulation, especially when your child doesn’t yet have the skills to pause or recover.
Punishment without support usually leads to the same exhausting cycle of yelling, guilt, and repair.
What usually helps more is a combination of structure, emotional support, skill-building, and parent guidance, so you don’t feel like you’re guessing all the time.
What actually helps kids with ADHD
Kids with ADHD usually do best when we focus on regulation first, then skills, not the other way around. In therapy and parent sessions, we work on tools you can actually use during real-life moments, not just ideas that sound good.
This often includes:
Co-regulation before correction so your child’s nervous system is calmer before you problem-solve.
Clear, simple expectations instead of long explanations they can’t hold in mind.
Consistent structure and routines that reduce daily decision fatigue for everyone.
Breaking tasks into smaller steps so things like homework and chores feel doable.
Teaching specific skills (emotional language, coping tools, planning) instead of only reacting to behavior.
How therapy supports your child and you
Therapy focuses on helping your child function better and feel better, not on “fixing” who they are. I work directly with children and teens on emotional regulation, impulse control, confidence, and coping tools, while also helping you respond in ways that reduce conflict and create more steadiness at home.
Our work may focus on:
Emotional regulation skills so your child has more than one way to handle big feelings.
Impulse control strategies that are realistic for their age and brain.
Support with frustration, transitions, and routines (mornings, homework, screens, bedtime).
Ongoing parent coaching and guidance so you know what to do between sessions.
Building confidence and self-esteem, especially if your child has started calling themselves “lazy,” “stupid,” or “bad.”
Dr. Lindsay offers walk-and-therapy sessions, which is incredibly helpful for ADHD kids and teens!
Learn more about my approach to therapy here.
For parents: support that’s actually for you
Most parents aren’t looking for a label; you want help with what everyday life feels like right now.
You might be seeking support because:
Your child melts down quickly and has a hard time recovering.
Homework turns into a power struggle almost every night.
Mornings, bedtime, or transitions feel chaotic and tense.
Your child is bright but struggles to follow through on even simple tasks.
You feel burned out from repeating yourself and are unsure what actually helps.
Parent support matters too
I meet with parents every 4-6 weeks, especially in the beginning, to hear your perspective and give you concrete strategies to try at home. ADHD affects the whole family, and many parents feel stuck between wanting to stay calm and feeling like nothing is working.
You do not need more judgment or generic advice. You need a clearer understanding of what is driving your child’s behavior and a practical plan you can start using this week.
Here’s how getting started works
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Book a free parent consultation
A 20-minute call just for you. Share what's going on, ask questions, and see if I’m the right fit - no pressure to decide on the spot.
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We build a plan together
If we feel like a good match, we’ll create a plan based on your child’s age, ADHD profile, and your family’s needs.
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Your child starts building real-life skills
Weekly sessions help your child understand their brain, practice regulation skills, and handle daily challenges with more support - while you feel less alone and more equipped.
Questions You Might Have
If your question isn’t answered here, you’re always welcome to book a free parent consultation - no question is too big or too small, and we’ll figure out together what your child needs.
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ADHD therapy helps your child understand their brain, calm their body, and practice tools for focus and emotional regulation in a supportive, non‑shaming environment. In my San Diego practice, I work with kids and teens on emotional regulation, impulse control, frustration tolerance, and real‑life routines like homework, mornings, and screen time.
Sessions are active and practical, not just talking. Your child learns specific skills they can use at home and school, while you receive clear guidance on what to do between sessions so you are not guessing. Many families notice less conflict, more confidence, and a calmer feel at home over time.
If you want to talk through how ADHD therapy might help your specific child, you can book a free 20‑minute parent consultation.
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Common signs of ADHD in children and teens include difficulty focusing, getting easily distracted, forgetting instructions, and struggling to start or finish tasks, especially when they are boring or challenging. Many kids also have big emotional reactions, frequent meltdowns, or power struggles around homework, mornings, and transitions.
You might notice your child is bright but disorganized, loses things often, talks or moves a lot, or has a hard time pausing before they act. Some kids look more “daydreamy” and withdrawn, while others are more obviously hyperactive and impulsive.
If you’re unsure whether what you’re seeing is typical or possibly ADHD, a free parent consultation can help you sort through your questions and next steps for assessment or support.
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Yes. I use behavioral strategies for ADHD alongside emotional regulation and nervous system support. Kids with ADHD usually need both: clear structure and expectations, and help calming their bodies and brains so they can actually use the strategies we put in place.
In ADHD therapy, I help families create simple routines, visual supports, and realistic rewards and consequences that fit your child’s age and ADHD profile. We focus on what is doable for your family, not a rigid one‑size‑fits‑all program.
During your free parent consultation, we can talk about what you’ve already tried - rewards charts, consequences, reminders - and tailor a plan that feels more effective and sustainable
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Parent coaching can make a big difference in how ADHD feels at home. Many parents tell me they feel like they’ve tried everything - reminders, charts, consequences -and are still burned out and unsure what actually helps.
In parent coaching sessions, we focus on specific situations like homework battles, screen time, morning routines, and bedtime. I help you understand what is driving your child’s behavior, what is realistic to expect with ADHD, and how to respond in ways that reduce conflict and support your child’s nervous system.
Parent coaching is available in‑person in Cardiff‑by‑the‑Sea (San Diego) and virtually throughout California, Colorado, and Utah, so you can get support even on busy weeks. We can talk about what parent support might look like for you during a free 20‑minute parent consultation.
You can learn more about parent coaching here.
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ADHD therapy is not a replacement for medication, but it can be a powerful complement - and in some cases, an alternative when medication is not recommended or not preferred. I do not prescribe medication, but I regularly collaborate with pediatricians and psychiatrists when families choose to explore that option.
Therapy focuses on skills, routines, and emotional support: helping your child manage big feelings, build executive functioning skills, and reduce daily conflict at home and school. For some kids, therapy alone provides enough support; for others, a combination of medication plus ADHD therapy works best.
If you’re unsure whether to consider medication, we can talk through your questions, values, and options in a free parent consultation, and I can help you think about what next steps make sense for your family.
This might be the decision that changes the feel of your home.
If your child is struggling and home feels harder than it should, this can be a place to get clarity, support, and a next step that doesn’t feel overwhelming.